December 10th, 2012
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A group of customers at Chilly D's Sports Lounge at the Cameo Club Casino in Stockton, California were enjoying an entertaining evening out - until they too a look at the bill. It wasn't the total that had them in shock; it was the language used to identify the women's party: "Fat Girls."

The restaurant issued an apology via Facebook:

This is a message for the girls that had a very bad experience at our bar a few nights ago and for anyone that was negatively affected by this. What happened to those girls at our bar was unacceptable and is in no way a reflection of how we run our business. We are just as appalled at what happened to these ladies and this employee has been immediately terminated. We are a family run business and strive to make our customers feel welcomed and appreciated.

My family is embarrassed and we are holding a full staff meeting to re-train all of our remaining employees so that this never happens again. In no manner do we want to be associated with this type of behavior and it is devastating that one persons behavior has reflected on our family's establishment. My hope is, that we can rectify the situation by taking immediate action with this employee and by extending our most sincere apologies to these ladies and anyone that has been affected by this situation.

I completely understand why they were hurt by what was written on their receipt and that type of treatment isn't tolerated. Also there will be no tolerance in the future, guaranteed. Everyone is welcome in our establishment, my family built this business so that the community of Stockton would have a safe and fun place to hang out and come together. My hope is to heal our newly tarnished reputation so that everyone feels safe and welcome again. And if these ladies would like to meet with my family and I, so that we can personally apologize, we would really like to do that, because we do not want anyone to have an experience like this.


Previously - Things you never want to hear in a restaurant and Keeping the peace, one table at a time

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  1. Engine87a

    Here we are trying to teach children not to be bullies and adults are the worse offenders to each other. News flash: We will never all fit into one sterio-type. Lay off the nasties.

    June 28, 2013 at 1:56 pm |
  2. Jeff

    While I do think this was in very poor taste, I do have one question for the large people out there:

    If you truly are happy with yourself, as you will always claim, why does it bother you so much if someone points out you are fat? Why get upset when you could just laugh it off with some witty remark about them? I've got a bit of a gut myself, if anyone calls me out on it, I just laugh and say yes, just too lazy to do anything about it. Or, make a remark about their ugly eyeliner or shoes, to illustrate the point they are being not respectable. I.e., I honestly am happy and don't care. I don't try to make up articles about how being overweight is actually healthy, I just don't care, as I actually am happy, not just trying to make excuses.

    January 6, 2013 at 8:06 pm |
    • Duhhh

      Ever hear 'If you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all'? Using your arguement, I can go around and call ugly people ugly... people with facial deformities 'retarded'.. people with any deformities any mean name I want to. We all are different – who decides who is what? I am 120lbs and may think that someone who is 150lbs is fat.. when in fact they are not. I am not perfect, neither is anyone else and no one has any right to call anybody ANY name, unless they are perfect themselves.. which no one is...

      January 7, 2013 at 12:26 pm |
    • Engine87a

      So if you and your friends are sitting at a table the waiter should be able to title the ticket "gay men", "Stupid dressers", "dateless losers"? All which are also true – at least in many people's judgment. Why is bullying and discrimination so unpopular and wrong except in the case of overweight people? I know... because it's NOT. Stop being assholes. Oh, there's a good title for your ticket.

      June 28, 2013 at 1:49 pm |
  3. lee

    You are loved here Karla! Be nice to these people who deny they have ever said anything negative about anyones appearance with honesty.

    January 4, 2013 at 12:22 pm |
  4. ApathyIsTheBestPolicy

    I don't care what they label my table as on the receipt as long as they don't spit in my food.

    January 3, 2013 at 3:15 pm |
  5. Don

    2 Cokes, a Sprite, and 3 large fries?? Shocking.

    January 3, 2013 at 3:00 pm |
    • Sarah A.

      Those are 3 drinks and 3 MEALS not just fries.

      And for all you know, they have a medical condition and the medication to treat it causes excessive weight gain. Or they are on a diet and the first time in a month, are treating themselves.

      Just because they are overweight does not give you a reason or excuse to judge them.

      January 6, 2013 at 12:05 pm |
  6. AFactCheck

    Whether it's tall girls, blond girls, brown-eyed girls, or fat girls, it has no business being printed on a restaurant check. People can have sensitivities about even the most subtle physical traits – so what happened here was certainly inappropriate and rude. But using the word "fat" does not make it any more inappropriate than using the word "slender" – especially given that these girls are undeniably fat.

    December 26, 2012 at 4:26 pm |
  7. Karla

    You know what they say about excuses...people need to get real about their wihget and health. If you drop food off your fork and it lands on your stomach instead of your lap, you are overweight or obese (unless you are pregnant, or have some horrible disease like cirrhosis). Come on, if you are overweight, be honest about it! Stop making excuses. If you are "yo-yoing" on your wihget, its because you are not being consistent with a healthy daily eating pattern (generally eating a healthy meal or snack every three to four hours that contain a little protein, high fiber carbs, and a little healthy fat), and not sticking with a little daily exercise (at least 30 minutes per day of brisk walking, and 2-3 days per week of a little strength training. If you are REALLY doing those things, and watching your total calories, and are STILL having massive wihget fluctuations, you need to see your doctor for a medical evaluation to find out what the problem is! But be honest. By the way, BMI is just an easy and inexpensive way to screen for obesity; its pretty obvious when a high BMI is from muscle instead of fat. Just open your eyes! If you don't trust your eyes, and need an "objective" measure, pull out a tape measure, and measure around the biggest part of your abdomen, and then measure around your hips. Take a calculator and divide the first number by the second. This is called the waist: hip ratio, and for men the number shouldn't be bigger than 1.0 (for women it shouldn't be bigger than 0.8 unless they are pregnant). If its larger – you are at risk for diabetes, heart disease and other problems – and you need to get on the ball!

    December 25, 2012 at 5:33 am |
    • Nancy

      hey Karla, your an ass.

      December 26, 2012 at 11:47 am |
    • Ms. Grammar

      REALLY???? So it's OK to label a table as FAT CHICKS? How about BLACK FAMILY? How about UGLY SOBs? Or, how about ARROGANT ASSHOLES – to include you, so you don't feel left out.

      December 26, 2012 at 12:21 pm |
    • somebody

      Karla, go back to elementary school, you suck at spelling. W-E-I-G-H-T, see? Even a moron like you should know.

      December 26, 2012 at 1:42 pm |
    • Justin

      So Karla, does that mean your cool with being called 'stupid b!tch' on your receipt?

      December 27, 2012 at 6:49 pm |
      • QDV

        High five to Justin, and I might suggest that Karla be serenaded while she dines, with "D-E-V-O."

        January 3, 2013 at 9:41 am |
    • Sweet Southern Belle

      Karla, Let me guess... you're a size 2. Ever had cancer? Taken chemo? Have a medical condition that makes you "fat" because of steroid treatments? I am a beautiful "FAT GIRL" and a healthy one. Steroids have made me a plus-size woman, and I have no problem with my size as long as my medical team of doctors, nutritionists, rheumatologist, and orthopedist are fine with it too. As one "obesity" doctor told me flatly after taking my $3,000 "I cannot help you. You have underlying medical conditions that will never allow you to be 'skinny' again. As long as you are healthy and in remission, be happy with yourself." If some people choose to be insensitive for their convenience, you don't patronize their business. Being skinny does not mean being happy, healthy or a productive member of society. It's judgmental people like you that need to look in the mirror – you may be skinny, but your heart is black.

      December 28, 2012 at 8:53 am |
      • Query

        While I agree with you that there are many health conditions that can impact weight, I do have to question your basic position that you are fat and healthy. Less because you are fat than because you have a team of doctors consulting with you apparently, and are taking a weight impacting level of steroids. These are not typically correlated with healthy individuals.

        January 4, 2013 at 10:22 am |
    • kay

      karla, not everybody wants to be skinny. i have big bones, so when i am the ideal weight, i look like a walking skeleton. I realized that i look best when a bit chubby. i prefer being a size 12 rather than the size 6. people need to stop judging others on their appearences. its not going to change how they look. its only going to hurt their feelings and everybody around u dislike u. people might laugh at those kind of remarks, but really they are thinking "what an ass". so get ur attitude in life adjusted.

      December 30, 2012 at 10:57 am |
    • Doodler

      So then it is okay to also tell a smoker how they are polluting the air and slowly killing themselves? Or should we head on over to the heavy drinkers? Why not dive right in to the old people, tell them how bad the drugs they are taking for them and how they should of did better when they were young?

      Here is the thing .... NO ONE should be insulting customers... not the owner, not the management and most certainly not the wait staff. Happy customers and return visitors – ALL THEM – fat, skinney, short and tall > are the ones eatery's depend upon to keep their doors open. Best to not insult them.

      January 6, 2013 at 9:02 am |
  8. aWaiter

    They would probably need to more descriptive than fat girls. A better description would be fat girls at table 5 at a specific time. Fat girls is to vague in this obese society. BTW, I used to be obese but worked at it and am now overweight working on normal (BMI). It can be done.

    December 24, 2012 at 2:38 pm |
    • Dallas Meintz

      They are fat, they are morbidly obese, if you don't like it, don't leave a tip and don't go back, next comes the lawsuite, mark my word.

      December 24, 2012 at 4:50 pm |
      • JosephS

        Lawsuit for what? While poor judment in this instance, exercising first amendment rights is still protected in our society. The employee should be fired (I believe he was), the business should issue a formal apology (I believe they did). All that is left is for the individuals move on with their life. They may choose not to ever visit the establishment again, that is their right also.

        January 3, 2013 at 3:13 pm |
        • Doodler

          There is something more powerful than the a lawsuit. It is called "word of mouth".

          I would never take my friends, co-workers or children to an establishment that openly allowed the employees to say rude things either infront of > or behind the backs of ... clients. This is part of their service... that you pay for. And if they find it so very difficult to show any type of respect... than I don't see how they need my $$$ to remain open, and am sure to also tell my friends what type of hospitality to expect.

          The thing is – you ARE responsible for your employees. Their behavior, rudeness or even kindness and caring. They are on the clock, they are serving your customers and you are responsible for giving them correct training and monitoring them.

          In my opinion, the truth of what they said was moot – but the fact that they insulted a client... which compromises the integrity of my brand, my company and what I want it to stand for as well as possible profit > I would of not only fired that person, but given the women viable compensation and started a refresher training for all staff on how to treat customers..

          January 6, 2013 at 9:08 am |
  9. Nicholas

    Are they fat? Yes. Was it tactful or at all classy to label their table as "Fat girls". Hell no. This isn't about political garbage (i.e. obesity epidemic, American health care costs, etc.) this is about what is a proper way to run a business. You don't insult your customers. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.

    If there was a group of flamboyantly gay guys or girls at a table would you put down "faggots" or "gay table" as a table description? No. Those on here that think this is OK are justifying this behavior because they are in fact fat. But did they come out to be berated at this place? No, they came out to have a good time and enjoy a meal without being insulted just like anybody else would expect.

    And I am far from fat.

    December 24, 2012 at 10:18 am |
    • Nancy

      You are 100% right. I cannot believe these people do not get that.. and I am not fat either..

      December 26, 2012 at 12:06 pm |
      • Doodler

        They do it because they see the soap box is now vacant and they wish to step up, tell the world -how they see things- in an effort to further feed their self-important, all-about-me... ego.

        January 6, 2013 at 9:11 am |
  10. Dee Dee

    To all of you self righteous people who think yourselves attractive enough to not be labelled "fat" or "bald" or "dirty" or whatever. You make sport of it and like to bully other people with physical short-comings. Keep the "truth" to yourselves and at least attempt to hold your tongue. If someone is working at changing themselves, are they supposed to hibernate at home until they meet your standards of appearance? Have a little empathy and some polite manners. The world will be a better place when we spend less time ridiculing other peoples appearance. Oh yeah you defend this evil by saying you're just "telling the truth". Well we know better. You mock other people for whatever shortcoming you can find so you feel better about yourselves. We all owe these ladies an apology. One day when you are 75, your attractive self will be gone and then maybe you will empathize. EMPATHY TODAY.

    December 24, 2012 at 10:14 am |
    • Nancy

      Thumbs up for you Dee Dee.. wonder how he would like it if someone referred to him as "small penis".. which he probably has.

      December 26, 2012 at 11:58 am |
  11. lxNay

    Yeh, it is kind of funny, but what strikes me as the 'funniest' part, is the stupidity of the waiter. What an idiot. Obviously these places have to think of other ways to identify their customers, like the old fashioned 'table 5', rather than some identifier made up by stupid staff.

    December 24, 2012 at 9:54 am |
  12. HilaryB

    What I don't understand is why do all of you give a sh!t? I've read many posts above where the posters claim obesity is a personal choice. So what's with all the judgement and ignorance? Our society, as a whole, is much more concerned in pointing out the shortcomings of everyone around us rather than acknowledging our own. On a related note, I'd like to applaud the company on how they responded to this issue. The server was representing a company and being paid for it. He has an obligation to conduct himself according to the code of ethics/conduct of that company. As employees, we have all had times where we've thought something but bit our tongue because if we said what we thought we would be disciplined or let go. This situation is no different. He wasn't being paid to represent himself and his own thoughts... he was being paid to represent the company. To those that don't understand this, you're idiots. And I can say this because I am representing myself and not being paid for this post.

    December 23, 2012 at 11:21 am |
  13. snowdogg

    "I completely understand why they were hurt by what was written on their receipt"...
    because it is true.

    December 22, 2012 at 3:41 am |
    • lxNay

      What surprises me is that the waiter was so stupid as to put this identifier on the receipt system. Sure, the girls may be fat, but what possessed this numb brain to identify them this way on the receipt is beyond belief. What an idiot; he deserved to be fired.

      December 24, 2012 at 9:46 am |
    • Doodler

      I treated my ex-husband to a meal. He was inbetween jobs and I wanted to take him out to celebrate my promotion and getting my degree. I worked 12 hour days, nights and weekends to get this promotion and inbetween, worked on my degree.. all the while being the only financial support for our five children – and – caring for them. It had been a very difficult time, but now – things were finally coming full circle. After this meal, I was taking him to an interview I had helped setup.

      So there we were, and some young teens were beside us. Laughing, jeering and a few mooos. Finally, one said to me they loved my blue and black shirt... wanted to know if it helped me attract other whales too.

      All that I had done, and struggled for – TO come here and celebrate.... shattered.

      Why was this needed? Why do people feel sooo free to say what ever they want to – to people that have some weight or that are different? Since when is it their business to know my life's little details?

      Really – I want to know. I do not drink, smoke or anything. Why pick on me because of my size? Why get up in my face because I am different? Who gave them... the right?

      Please do not say I did – because that is akin to saying I can pick on you because you are obviously different.. so accept it and shutup.

      January 6, 2013 at 9:19 am |
  14. scars

    You don't insult the customer. Even if, and especially if, it is true. Unless you want to lose business. I'm thinking that a restaurant probably likes fat customers because they order more. 3 skinny girls are going to have salads (dressing on the side) and water. Sure, the staff will enjoy looking at them more, but the owner is going to miss the income.

    I can't believe how hateful some people are regarding other people's weight. Yes, I am overweight (not obese, thank God). I have struggled for the last 10 years after being basically naturally skinny for most of my life. I was 97 lbs when I graduated college. Then I developed hormonal problems and my life has been a living hell ever since. I have tried every diet program, I took up running, I go to the gym. I can lose about 25 lbs before I hit a wall. I HATE being fat, but I can't seem to find something that works for me. In addition to the fat, my hormonal issues also cause other problems that are just as bad. I'm practically a hermit now because I know that wherever I go, people are thinking horrible things about me just because of my weight. You all act as if all fat people are fine with it. You don't know which of us are struggling and which aren't trying. You don't know if we cry ourselves to sleep every night. I've even attempted suicide once over it. It is hard enough to hate your own body without every person in the world commenting on "lazy fatties". We aren't all lazy. Sometimes diet and exercise really isn't enough.

    Stop being so mean and for once in your shallow and self-centered lives just be GRATEFUL that it isn't you. Before my hormones turned on me, I never realized how hard it is to lose a lot of weight. If you've never had to do it, don't act like your an expert because you aren't.

    December 17, 2012 at 7:17 am |
    • NoEuphemisms

      Ah yes... "hormonal problems". Also maybe you're big-boned.

      December 21, 2012 at 7:42 am |
      • HilaryB

        And I'm sure you're without fault or shortcoming?

        December 23, 2012 at 11:25 am |
      • can't fix stupid

        Fortunately, fat can be fixed. It may take a long time, and some perseverance, but it can be fixed. Low intelligence, as displayed by NoEuphemisms, isn't fixable. There is the rub.

        December 24, 2012 at 10:55 am |
        • Doodler

          WHY should a person HAVE to even attempt to FIX themselves? Because you deem such?

          What if someone is .... too black for your taste.. what if they are too lily white? What if you think all women that dye their hair black > do it wrong. What if you think muscle guys – just look... meh.. and need less to look good.

          WHO... dear.. made you not only the judge > but the jury?

          January 6, 2013 at 9:22 am |
      • crash14

        You know. People like you make other people the "springboard" of your jokes to take the attention off of some inferiority you may have. Whether it be a serious acne problem, balding, thinning hair, you look like a hobo and can't dress yourself, etc. You will find if you come to terms with your own limitations, you will begin to treat others better. You will also feel better about yourself. This is why our school systems are so damaged. Perfect Parents teach their Perfect Children that being different is "socially unacceptable", so they must act and live to society's expectations. Thus, they become shallow, fake, stuck-up snobs who ridicule children who may be less fortunate, a little overweight, have physical deformations, speech problems, etc. Those children's self-esteem, which wasn't strong to begin with, is now gone, and they will now grow up afraid of people; afraid of being judged; afraid of rejections; and quite possibly, die alone. All of this because people like you have to publicly announce to your nerdy, foul-mouthed hoodlum friends, "dude, look at that fat chick", not knowing what hell she may be going through. If society could try and be a little kinder to each other, you'd be suprised at how much easier life really could be.

        December 31, 2012 at 2:58 pm |
  15. Ruch Mather

    I can't help being bald either but folks are just fine referring to me as where's the line? Where it hurts feelings? How do you justify that; short is short, bald is bald, fat is fat...they are what we in the English world refer to as adjectives, descriptive of the individuals characteristics, sometimes it isn't flattering but if its true and you don't like it, your issue. I've grown to accept bald though I don't like it and I have never had ANYONE come to bat for me and my affliction and there is nothing I can do about it...fat, in MOST cases, is within the power of the individual.

    December 16, 2012 at 12:17 pm |
    • NoEuphemisms

      Amen brother.

      December 21, 2012 at 7:44 am |
    • HilaryB

      The issue here isn't about being bald, or fat, or disfigured, or what have you. It's about an employee not operating in the best interest of the company he is representing. It is not his authority, or part of his job requirements, to pass judgement on customers.

      December 23, 2012 at 11:28 am |
  16. Zenger Folkman

    I can't believe how many people here think it's OK to print "fat girls" on their check just because they are overweight! Have you never heard of tact or class or consideration, or even "treating the customers right"? If a retarded person was at a table would you find it acceptable to put "retard" on the bill? What if a guy had a disfugured face, would you write "ugly guy"? Are there really that many people who can justify this kind of behavior, or does this website attract more than its share of the rude and the crude? Hope it's the latter.

    December 13, 2012 at 2:47 pm |
    • ScottCA

      your comparison is not apt.
      Being fat is a fact and saying someone is fat is not an isult but an accurate discription.
      If they had written ugly fat girls, maybe you would have a point. But they wrote fat girls
      Getting upset over an accurate description of oneself is foolish, it would be like a bald man getting upset because someone called him bald.
      Fatness is very unhealthy and people should be called out for letting themselves go like that.
      They need to take responsability and fix their health. We should not passively enable these people to abuse their own health.

      December 14, 2012 at 12:19 am |
      • Rebecca

        Scott, I'm happy that you're so classless that you think it's "ok" to describe people as being "fat"...I'm quite sure that you're probably either "short", "bald", "ugly" or maybe all the above. Hope you're cool with someone describing YOU like this because Trust me, THEY ARE! Not everyone who is overweight can help it and it certainly isn't always a case of "letting themselves go", but you're such a moron I'm not surprised that you would think that! Now GROW UP!

        December 14, 2012 at 11:43 am |
        • VladT

          If your argument is based on how you "know" how Scott would react, you have already lost this argument. I'll help Scott out....I am 30 years old, and only 5'5. People refer to me as short all the time, and unlike these women, there is nothing I can do about it. Instead of steak sandwiches, how about grilled chicken? A salad with light dressing? Nope....well, fat is fat.

          December 17, 2012 at 9:01 am |
        • NoEuphemisms

          Apparently, you've completely missed his point. Although there may be an element of subjectivity (how fat is fat?), it is simply an adjective and if the fat person feels that it's an insult, it's an issue of his or her self-esteem. I'm sure this is in no small part driven by the recognition that their direct and indirect excess consumption of resources is a drain on society.

          December 21, 2012 at 7:51 am |
      • HilaryB

        Should you be called out for your shortcomings? Do you point out and hold your loved ones responsible for their shortcomings? I think it's time that everyone took a good look at themselves before being so quick to "call out" others.

        December 23, 2012 at 11:33 am |
      • Doodler

        So be equal in this – same the exact same damn thing to drinkers and smokers...

        January 6, 2013 at 9:24 am |
  17. ericraines

    I don't get it... I'm a morbidly obese individual. You girls are all fat, and your receipt for your steak sandwiches and full sugared sodas shows you're not really concerned about doing anything about it... it's a factual description. If you don't like it, do something about it to change it.

    December 13, 2012 at 7:46 am |
  18. E.

    Are they under the age of 18? Because unless they are, they are not girls. They are women.

    December 12, 2012 at 6:17 pm |
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    December 12, 2012 at 2:58 pm |
  20. Alluring Trixie

    SO. VERY. FAT!

    December 12, 2012 at 2:55 pm |
  21. Marcia

    Call them fat all you want; on your own time. This guy obviously had no brains

    December 12, 2012 at 2:30 pm |
  22. Marcia

    They are fat and I am sure that they are aware of the fact. But that does not make it right. He was on the clock. He was representing a company that is NOT his. That is no way to speak to a customer. And I'm glad he was suspended. I bet none of you would still have your jobs if you called your customers ugly, fat. etc..

    December 12, 2012 at 2:29 pm |
    • Zenger Folkman

      " That is no way to speak to a customer. " You are right, Marcia. And more importantly, that is no way to speak to another human being. It is extremely rude to make personal remarks to a stranger, "true" or not. Where was this guy raised? I remember in high school there was an extremely ugly kid who rode my bus. One day, several kids surrounded him and kept making remarks about his appearance. After about 5 minutes of nonstop they got what they wanted. His lip started quivering and the tears just started rolling down his face, the poor guy. You could tell when this happened, a few of the kids who apparently had some empathy looked really embarrassed when this happened. Apparently, they didn't realize when they were taunting him that he might not be able to brush this off. (PS: Did you notice that I said this kid was really UGLY? That's because he was! But did you also notice that I and the majority of the kids on the bus did NOT bring this to his attention, and we didn't taunt him? If you don't see the difference, you are a hopeless sub-human.

      December 13, 2012 at 3:01 pm |
      • NoEuphemisms

        You're quite smug and self-congratulatory for not having participated in the taunting yet you sat there thinking "this kid is really ugly". In my book this sort of subjective judgment of others makes you worse than the tactless knucklehead who got fired. That kid's parents probably didn't think he was ugly. On the other and, these "girls'" parents probably do recognize that they are fat. Sometimes, there's just no arguing that a spade isn't a spade.

        December 21, 2012 at 8:02 am |
        • E

          Considering the skewed image most people have now adays for what is and is not -fat-, who is to say that these ladies were really and truly fat? For that matter, even if they were, why are they not allowed to have a splurge meal every so often? For all you know, they could have been on salads and water for the rest of their week. They could have been at the gym earlier that day, and would be going their again the next day. The point is, whether you are in a service position or not, tact is tact. Empathy is also empathy. You obviously have none, as you seek to give reasons as to -why- people of all shapes and sizes should come to accept hurtful labels as to acceptable means of identification. The next time you're out, I hope someone distinctly writes "Napoleon Complex" on your receipt.

          December 24, 2012 at 10:26 am |
  23. EP Sato

    Have I arrived at some alternate world where the obese are a protected minority? There's nothing in federal law that says people can't be discriminated against for being overweight. Yet every time fat people complain about "discrimination" it's national news. The obese have NO RIGHT to expect preferential treatment. They are not legitimately disabled, obesity is for the most part a lifestyle choice. And seriously, don't say it's an addiction because it only weakens the argument. Or are we suddenly going to give drug addicts preferential treatment too?

    If anything, we're supposed to DISCOURAGE the obese. Obesity is a serious public health concern, and contrary to popular belief, it costs us all money. Obesity causes a plethora of expensive to resolve health problems, which in turn increase insurance rates for us all. When the obese have no health insurance, they add an extra burden (pun intended) to the public health system. Public Health is funded with tax money. SO yes, fat people cost us all money.

    Was it rude to refer to the table as "fat girls" as an identifier? Not at all. In a crowded restaurant, receipts are written in a manner so the staff can remember a particular table. "Fat girls" may have been insensitive, but these women were not discriminated against. They were not refused service. They weren't told to eat at the back of the restaurant, or told to come back on "fat people night." From all indicators the women received otherwise good service. They were not called a bad word, they weren't insulted for being female, for being part of a minority group, nor for their sexual preference. Had the receipt said something like "Fat B-tches," I'd say the women had a legitimate beef, but "fat girls?" Not even close, and certainly not worthy of a free meal.

    I find it funny how sensitive fat people are about their weight, as if there's nothing that can be done to change it. The saddest part about it is that weight loss really isn't that difficult. Switching out soda for water, taking the stairs, walking, portion control, sleeping 8 hours a night and spending less time in front of the tv are NOT major lifestyle changes, yet they'd help most obese people lose weight.

    December 12, 2012 at 12:37 pm |
    • Ugh

      (rolls eyes) Yes, because, clearly, all overweight people eat fries and hamburgers every day, and refuse to do any kind of exercise whatsoever. There are many overweight people who eat healthy, watch their portion size and exercise several times a week, if not daily. And many of these same overweight people have low blood pressure and low cholesterol numbers that many skinny people would love to have.

      Not all fat people are 'unhealthy', nor are all skinny people 'healthy'. There are plenty of people who are healthy (or unhealthy) regardless of their body type. Comments such as yours demonstrate how clueless you are.

      December 12, 2012 at 3:20 pm |
      • Matt

        Ugh, your comment is beyond moronic, and it is people like you who make people who struggle with their weight think that it is genetic, related to a thyroid problem, etc. The people who you are referring to (who may or may not exist) are EXTREMELY rare outliers in the population. If you eat chicken (or even better go vegan), lots of vegetables, lots of water, and just maintain a mildly active lifestyle (which is fun by the way), you WILL be thin I guarantee it.

        The problem is, it is hard. Very hard. And most people don't like to work hard, be uncomfortable, or change. If you are predisposed to gaining weight (which CAN be genetic) you have to work harder. Sorry, fact of life. Think about it though, you could have been born with any other number of genetic disorders where you would give ANYTHING to get outside and play.

        Next time you want to quit, put on a good song on your ipod, do whatever it takes to get a little fire in your belly, and think about all the people in your life who you've had to rely on as a result of your weight. Now, think how good it'd feel to be the one people relied on for a change!

        Get some.

        December 12, 2012 at 6:13 pm |
        • Liz

          I'm sure the vegetarian and vegan crazies are all over this, but news flash - you're thin because you're starving yourself, and some people on your diet bandwagon are bloated. I switched to a low carb, high fat diet after having a baby in January and am now the same weight I was in high school (105 lbs). Sure, I didn't start out at over 200 lbs. or anything like that, but restricting carbs to 150g per day and eating veggies and high protein with animal fat does amazing things for your weight and blood cholesterol. Telling people they'll magically be healthy if they eschew their body's natural preference for animal protein and vegetables is ridiculous.

          December 15, 2012 at 3:48 am |
    • tza78

      Actually, I'm an employment lawyer, and at a minimum, the morbidly obese are protected from discrimination under the ADA (and state/local laws protecting against disability discrimination), as morbid obesity is considered a disability.

      December 12, 2012 at 5:40 pm |
      • JT

        I find it interesting that morbid obesity would be classified as a disability. Because it is NOT the same as someone who is confined to a wheelchair as a paraplegic because of military service or a car accident. It is NOT the same as someone who has autism or some other diminished mental capacity that prevents them from functioning fully as an adult. In almost all but a handful of cases where there are genetic factors, morbid obesity comes from a lifestyle choice. By that reasoning, perhaps homosexuality should be re-classified as a disability.

        Like most Americans, I could probably stand to lose a few pounds. But I would never claim a "disability" from it, because I'm NOT disabled. To claim it is such is an insult to our servicemen and women who have lost limbs to IEDs in the Middle East, or to victims of drunk drivers now confined to wheelchairs.

        December 14, 2012 at 7:09 pm |
    • Matt

      I look at this and think, "now here's a guy who gets it". There is no return on investment that exists like there is when you invest in your health. We've cracked the code, it's not rocket science! Do the things above and see GUARANTEED results, don't wait!

      December 12, 2012 at 6:03 pm |
      • Alan

        As some one listed as obese/fat because I m 250lbs at 6ft tall and having been this weight for 25 years, I take offense to being called fat or that changing my lifestyle will reduce my weight. I was military, I now climb towers for a living, I move equipment weighing between 20 and 80 lbs daily. I was on multiple nutritionist designed diets while military because of the height weight charts saying I am obese. The only thing they changed was putting me in the hospital due to malnutrition. There is no one size fits all approach to nutrition and healthy living.

        December 16, 2012 at 8:28 pm |
        • NoEuphemisms

          We understand the difference between "fat" and "weight", thank you. Maybe your 250 pounds is all muscle, but I'm guessing these patrons were not members of the Russian women's weightlifting team.

          December 21, 2012 at 8:09 am |
  24. jjpwnsu

    Reblogged this on thbrainarchive and commented:

    December 12, 2012 at 4:47 am |
  25. badianbrad

    Really? This is headline news??? Not the murders, assaults, rapes that happened this day, but a couple of fat girls who had their feelings hurt? Lighten up everyone. Oh, and guess what? Next they ask for money.

    December 11, 2012 at 9:32 pm |
  26. ScottCA

    These women were fat girls. They might not like being called what they are, but that is what they are, and they should be called out on it. Maybe if they spent more time caring about their fitness and less eating, this wouldn't have happened to them.

    A fat girl is as a fat girl eats.

    December 11, 2012 at 7:18 pm |
    • JimCA

      And you are a moron. Do you like being called one? Ever hear of treating people like you want to be treated?

      December 12, 2012 at 11:21 pm |
      • ScottCA

        If I behave in a moronic manner then it is fine to comment upon it when justified.
        Saying these women are fat is stating a fact in this case not an undeserved insult.

        Now I challenge you to qualify your statement about my mental capacity with evidence to back it.

        December 13, 2012 at 12:52 am |
        • Pete

          ScottCA, I cannot comment on your mental capacity, but I can certainly comment that you are tactless and have no class. No matter what defect someone may have, be that something they can control easily or not so easilly (and it is a documented fact that some people can keep weight off easily and others can't) it is not ok for you to approach them and remind them about it. Fat people know they're fat. Whether you think they can help it or not (and whether they want to help it or not) it is not for you to address that with them unless you are close friends, family, etc. Note that this list does not include servers at a restaurant. That guy was a classless a hole as well.

          December 24, 2012 at 8:50 am |
  27. Mike

    What about the fact they didn't pay? Since when do you get to not pay for the food because the waiter was rude?

    December 11, 2012 at 1:30 pm |
    • E

      Since forever? Welcome to food service.

      December 24, 2012 at 10:29 am |
  28. Roz

    It's hate overweight women far more than they hate child molesters or serial killers. I'm just curious. What did fat women do to all of you that you hate them so much?

    December 11, 2012 at 1:23 pm |
    • Roz

      Still waiting for a reply...why are fat women so evil? Did fat women hijack the planes on 9/11?

      December 11, 2012 at 1:31 pm |
      • Nurse2004

        No. They did not hijack the planes on 9/11. However, they are fat, as is more than 30% of our population. They are the reason for the biggest healthcare disaster this country has ever seen. A public health crisis. Fat is not a bad word, nor is it a taboo word. We know they're fat, they know they're fat. Man or woman, FAT people are becoming a serious burden to society, all because they can't close their mouths. I could be fat if I wanted to, but I'm not because I have a ton of self esteem and RESTRAINT. My insurance is higher because of them. My taxes are higher because of them. To sit in front of the camera crying to the country about how you got your feelings hurt doesn't phase me in the least. Put the fork down, start walking, stop being an avoidable burden on society.

        December 11, 2012 at 3:04 pm |
        • Nurse2004

          Or, if you want to, come in to work with me every day in the operating room and help us. You can be there for 60 percent of my cases where it takes 6 or more people to transfer a fatty to the operating table. Or maybe you can bone up on your IV skills since trying to put an IV in a fat person can often only be done under ultrasound. Maybe you'd like to be there to help them to the bathroom after surgery and have a 500+ pounder fall on you? Or maybe it'd be better if you grow some thick skin and realize that calling someone fat or morbidly obese is no different these days than calling someone republican or democrat.

          December 11, 2012 at 3:11 pm |
        • Ugh

          This might be a shocker to you, but there are a lot of overweight people that have a lot of self esteem and an incredible amount of restraint. I work with many people who are overweight but eat much healthier than their skinny co-workers.

          For a nurse, I'm surprised you're so clueless. I'm sure you would be well aware that the size of a person does not always accurately reflect how healthy they are. There are many overweight people that eat healthy portions, exercise several times a week and watch what kinds of foods they consume, and yet they're still overweight. And by the same token, there are many skinny people that have diabetes, high blood pressure, etc.

          December 12, 2012 at 3:25 pm |
        • shoos

          Get a different job, there is such venom in your words.

          December 19, 2012 at 7:54 am |
        • E

          You're in the wrong line of work. You obviously have zero empathy.

          December 24, 2012 at 10:30 am |
        • Nancy

          Wow.. I hope like hell you don't work in the same hospital I do.. in fact you need a new job, maybe the prison in your community has an opening for a self righteous judgemental idiot like you.

          December 26, 2012 at 12:41 pm |
    • It's True@Roz

      Actually Roz, men do not hate fat women, we are usually simply repulsed by them. Hatred does not even enter the picture.

      December 11, 2012 at 3:25 pm |
      • Marta

        Tell us how you really feel!

        December 11, 2012 at 7:34 pm |
  29. kramer

    This is so ridiculous how over-sensitive some Folks can be.

    Can we honestly believe this is the first time these Gals realize they are "Plus Size" Ladies..!???
    Get over it Berthas..!!

    December 11, 2012 at 10:43 am |
  30. MD

    That waiter is sooo wrong. I just looked at the news clip and those girls aren't fat. They're HUGE!

    December 11, 2012 at 9:12 am |
  31. VladT

    I read all of the comments first, and they gave me a chuckle. I then watched the video, and actually started laughing. Yeah, I'm a terrible person, but what's a guy to do?

    December 11, 2012 at 9:11 am |
  32. Your Panties in Texas

    This story has made me hungry.

    December 11, 2012 at 3:56 am |
  33. James

    I would never make fun of someone with a disability or something that is out of their control. Although being fat is not one of them. With a growing epidemic of fatties we need to inspire to go for a run and not eat deep fried food. So i applaud this waiter for pointing out to a person that they are fat because of the many health risks associated they need to loose the weight. We should not pretend it is alright to be fat because it is so bad for your health. Lets not make it okay in america to be fat, just like smoking it is preventable, avoidable, and can be stopped so is being a fatty.

    December 11, 2012 at 2:07 am |
    • I M FAT

      Hello, I'm FAT. You didn't do it, the waiter didn't do it, the bartender didn't do it. HOWEVER, if he had been smart, he'd have said, "gorgeous, voluptuous women" instead of Fat. I realize that would have been a BIG stretch, but he may have gotten a large tip. However, there are many reasons people are fat, just as there are many reasons people are jackasses.

      December 11, 2012 at 7:32 am |
      • lk

        Awesome! I totally agree. It never hurts to be nice–and it often helps :)

        December 12, 2012 at 2:20 pm |
    • Hi Fatties

      I lived overseas for 10 yrs. When I came back, I was so shocked at all the FATTIES here in the US. Then I promptly gained 20 lbs, forgetting about the processed food. Took another year for me to get the weight off. You have to be diligent here, or you will be fat. It is easier in other countries, where you walk more, food is less processed, and food is not sold by the gallon or pound.

      These girls are fat.

      December 11, 2012 at 8:40 am |
      • ScottCA

        I lived overseas in Japan and had the same experience. Man was it nice to live in a place where the women were in good shape and not fat like in north america. Here its over weight fat women with terribly selfish self important attitudes. north american women have forgotten how to be girls. Glad I married overseas.

        December 11, 2012 at 7:24 pm |
        • Ugh

          We are too ^_^

          December 12, 2012 at 3:27 pm |
        • ScottCA

          iI forgot to mention that North American women age really poorly as well. They show their age much faster than Japanese women who on average look at least 10 yeaars younger than their north american counter parts.

          December 13, 2012 at 3:07 am |
  34. Lori

    What if they were different girls and it said "skinny girls" or "pregnant girls" or "blonde girls". Come on get over it, it is a description! Did these girls really not know that they were fat? People are way to sensitive and are offended so damn easily!

    December 11, 2012 at 1:28 am |
    • I M FAT

      You are so right! I stopped wearing dark colors a long time ago, because, when you're fat- nothing makes you look skinnier! They're fat, I'm fat- Sometimes, you're just fat. And unless you're taking up someone else's seat, It's really no one else's business. It's just a description. I agree completely.

      December 11, 2012 at 7:42 am |
  35. Frammis

    Maybe they were fat, I don't know. But for all of you talking about how they ate "3 Tri Tips", look at the bill closer. They ate 3 Tri Tip Sandwiches with fries, not 3 Tri Tips. I am not condoning this waiter's actions, I just would like for there to be intelligent conversation regarding this situation and not the usual sophmoric blather.

    December 11, 2012 at 12:09 am |
    • I M FAT

      look at the picture- they're fat. so am I.

      December 11, 2012 at 7:39 am |
      • Zenger Folkman

        And I have met many Americans who are dumb as rocks–and proud of it!!

        December 13, 2012 at 3:07 pm |
  36. ready

    if someone is fat when you are asked to describe them you will say they are fat because that is what they are, fat.

    December 10, 2012 at 11:55 pm |
  37. Ben

    Reminds me of the old story about computerized form letters sent out by a bank to its top customers, all of which bore the boilerplate salutation, "Dear Rich B*stard:"

    December 10, 2012 at 11:08 pm |
  38. He's a Jacka**

    I understand that the girls may have been over weight, but where does he get off calling them fat? They are keeping him employed(well they were), by going to the establishment. If he has rude or mean comments keep them to himself or say it where the customer can't read or see it. Its like the pot calling the kettle black. He is a jacka**, but did they tell him that? No, so there is no reason for him to have done that.

    December 10, 2012 at 6:26 pm |
    • I M FAT

      He wasn't a jackass, just stupid. Stupid because "fat" is considered an ugly word, instead of what it is– a descriptive word of a size.

      December 11, 2012 at 7:35 am |
  39. Johnny D


    December 10, 2012 at 5:20 pm |
  40. Suze Orman

    But on the positive side, three tri-tips with fries for $7.50 each is a pretty good deal. I approve this purchase!

    December 10, 2012 at 4:36 pm |
    • Jerv

      LM AO! Thanks for the early morning laugh.

      December 11, 2012 at 7:17 am |
  41. widow

    loved it.. esp the women being all emotional and upset that reality has hit the fan.. Do they want to be in denial that more han 50% of the population looks at them and says " wow are they fat" because damn they are some pretty big fatties. people are going to look at you and say your fat.. so move the f on.. if you can't handle it.. lose the fricken weight.. stop eating all those tacos and enchiladas.. oh and fried chicken and burgers.. i forgot i have to be PC or i might offend someone for something they really are.

    December 10, 2012 at 4:21 pm |
    • I M FAT

      even fat people are going to look at them and call them fat. I'm fat- and they're fat.

      December 11, 2012 at 7:37 am |
  42. Jeff

    If they are fat they should be called fat. Cmon three tri tips! Maybe the three fat girls should take this as a wake up call

    December 10, 2012 at 3:47 pm |
  43. opinionguru

    ...... Newsflash, they really ARE FAT! It may be tasteless an very un-PC to say it (and please don't write it down on their bill if you don't to suffer backlash)... but OMG, GET OVER YOUR OBESE A**ES! If you are sensitive about your weight then lose it!

    December 10, 2012 at 3:29 pm |
    • misha

      Or people could try to not be complete a##holes to others...Gosh how dare they get upset at someone insulting them!

      December 10, 2012 at 11:40 pm |
      • I M FAT

        he didn't insult them- he just said they're fat.

        December 11, 2012 at 7:38 am |
        • ScottCA

          Exactly He told the truth. It would be like a bald man getting upset because someone said he was bald.

          December 13, 2012 at 12:54 am |
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